Friday, February 26, 2010

Group Meetings- Should I Stay or Should I Go?

I have been rereading my posts and I realized that I have not been motivated to write at all about my weekly check-in meetings with my HMR Health Educator. So, I am wondering if I should stop going. Here is why:

As of late, it seems like all of the other people on the call (approximately 10pp), are just depressed. We have to report our losses and gains, and it seems like everyone has been gaining consistently over the past few weeks. I am the only one losing. I am finding it pretty unmotivating. With the blog community, if someone's post is a downer, I read it, try to send some motivation, and then move on to something perky and hopefully inspiring. I don't have an out on this call.

We discuss why people think they aren't losing, but the reason is obvious: they aren't following the plan, they aren't moving, they aren't keeping up with their food journals. It isn't the kind of call where you can call someone out on the carpet and say "Hey! Get with it!" In fact, it isn't even the kind of call where you can say, "You will surely do better next time."

The call is totally reliant on the feedback of the HE. Typically, she tries to find the positive in all the negative. "Well, you gained 3, but you ate 10 more servings of vegetables than last week." I am not buying this approach. There is going to come a time when the scale is not so kind to me as it has been thus far. I need more than kudos because I ate all my broccoli. I want to be enabled to lose these pounds, not enabled to just squeak by. This is where all of you come in.

I have been truly humbled by the support that I feel by writing. Maybe the feeling is all in my head, but I feel like you all give a crap about me & Ethel. So, here is my plea: kick me in the tush when I don't do what I should. Give me praise when I deserve it. Help me do better. I promise to do the same for you.

Off to the gym for only the 2nd time this week. Cheers.


  1. Well, be sure to go tomorrow, too! Then, it will be your 3rd time this week.

    How's that?

  2. This week I had a gain myself, but I just keep reminding myself to stay in the box. I deserved the gain as I was out of the box. I am keeping positive about it though because even if it is a set-back I know that it will be gone again soon. I think it's all about your mind set.

    Stay with the weekly check-ins and if you need any encouragement let me know and I can share a few of the grains of wisdom I have collected on my journey;o) Or at least say something to make you smile.

    I am personally challenging myself to have no zero PA days and to be completely in the box for this week. That's probably going to be my challenge each week from now on until I get to where I want to be.

    Just remind yourself of where you want to be and that you just need to keep on doing what you are doing. Stay in the box and do at 2,000 cal of PA each week. Simple and yet hard to do sometimes, I know, trust me.

  3. Amen Sister! If that group is not meeting your needs I would really reevaluate your participation in it. On the flip side if you can help get even one person back on track that may make it worth it.

    I will be here to praise you or kick your booty if you need it :)

  4. I didn't know you attended these meetings... If it doesn't bring you down too much, can you attend and be as bright and perky about your losses as you can? If I was in your position, I'd try to look on attending as the potential to help those who are in a funk get motivated again... Sometimes it only takes a few right words or the attitude on another person to get someone back on track again. :o)

    At the moment, I think a lot of us are struggling with motivation. It's not as if we're eating really BADLY, it's more we're not eating weight loss portions and food... I have strong feeling this will all turn around in the next few days with the start of Spring. Winter months bring a lot of people down.

    Have fun!

    Patsy x

  5. Some of us are glass half full people. I think you are one of those people. You like to be surrounded by positivity and that is what you respond well to. I see that as a good thing. If you need something outside of the blogging community, you may need to consider finding a different group. When I did a post on Weight Watchers, those who did not succeed reported that they didn't like the group dynamics. Those who loved WW and were successful said their group made all of the difference.

    The fact that you are ready and willing to do the work and that you don't want things sugar coated is such a positive approach. Best of luck!